UPDATE: Friend group recruited for Coral’s “free wedding” learns the real reason is the groom wants to use the budget to buy a sailboat: ‘Very useful and practical thing to have when you are living in the city!’

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  • Update: AITA for telling my friend that her "free" wedding is unrealistic?

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  • Hi there. My last post sort of blew up lol. I really didn't think so many people would be that interested in my silly friend group drama.
  • Short recap: my friend "Coral" announced she was going to have a "free wedding", with all of her friends playing roles to volunteer a nice venue, tent, food, photography, band, cake (my role), etc.
  • It sounded okay at first but her expectations seemed unrealistically lavish, and I told her that (in stronger wording), and she got upset.
  • After reading the comments, I honestly began to feel bad for Coral. She really is a kindhearted person, but a lot of people interpreted her as an insane entitled bridezilla.
  • That's really not the case. I decided I was going to make the cake, and I sent her an apology text (to which I didn't get any reply; that was making me really anxious).
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  • I still didn't think that Coral's requests were that reasonable, and wasn't expecting the wedding to fully go to her plans, but that's not for me to worry about.
  • Finally, I got a message from Coral's fiance (who we'll call "Basil"), asking to meet up.
  • I said yes. My expectation going into this was that Basil would tell me how much I hurt Coral's feelings, and I was going to reiterate my apology and share some research/planning I had done on the cake.
  • That's not how it went though. As it turns out, the whole "free wedding" thing was Basil's idea.
  • That's not the impression I got before. Basil didn't at first explain why he wanted to do it, but when pressed it sounds like it's so he could spend the money that he and Coral had been saving up for their wedding on something else.
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  • A boat (a "Catalina 27", apparently). Very useful and practical thing to have when you are living in the city!
  • Especially if your fiance gets seasick (we did one of those river cruise things a while back and she had a bad time; Basil says he'll help her get over that and sailboats are different).
  • Anyway, after my whole outburst before, Coral has apparently been having second thoughts about the "free wedding" things.
  • Basil asked me to talk to her, apologize, and tell her that it isn't a bad idea after all.
  • He basically said I owe it to him to help clean up the "mess" | caused.
  • I don't feel great about that though. I don't want to drive a wedge between Coral and Basil, but telling her I think it's a good idea after all feels like lying, and I guess actively advocating for a potential trainwreck is a further line for me than just agreeing to play my assigned voluntold- baker role.
  • Moreover, this was my first real conversation with Basil, and I have to say I'm not totally convinced he's a great person.
  • I don't know if he has exactly "manipulated" her into going along with this, but it kinda feels that way.
  • So what do I do? It's been a little while now since l talked to Basil so I really do need to do something, be it what Basil asked, or further involving myself in drama by telling Coral I that I don't think the wedding (or the entire marriage?) is a good idea.

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